Empathy

A Connection or Two Got By Me

Within the last few days I hadn’t been feeling well. All I felt like doing was laying down, felt like I had bad indigestion, my appetite was off, and I was beyond pissed off and frustrated.

Every now and then a connection or two gets by you. Of course that would not happen to the point of affecting you badly if you grounded and cleared every day, but hey sometimes with kids and housework to do you you just don’t have time.

So I realized my wanting to just lay down all the time was me feeling my mother. Most days she doesn’t feel good and lays down on the sofa in her family room a lot of the times. My feeling of indigestion I realized was both my parents when my Father announced that he had bad acid reflux that bothers him at night which is when it was bothering me. The change in my appetite was my Mother as well. She is on a new meditation for allergies and she is still getting use to it. The frustration and anger I felt. Most likely my Father and my son is feeling it too which has caused us to yell a lot at each other these past couple of days.

The more I reacted to my feelings of frustration the lower my vibrations were. The lower my vibrations the more I attracted the vibrations I was putting out. What I ended up having to do is first off the hardest thing, stop reacting to the emotions that were not mine, second to raise my vibrations my smiling and listening to peppy up beat music. Exercise also helps but of course I didn’t do that. lol.

In case you have been paying attention to my other blog entries…Why didn’t the citrine crystal I had in my bra help? Because once I reacted to the frustration I was feeling, it lowered my vibrations and then even the citrine crystal couldn’t help me…I am actually surprised it didn’t explode right there in my bra. That would have been an awesome news story right? Ladies out of control emotions cause explosion and loss of left breast! he he.

I know that sounds like a nightmare to experience but in the end it is all good once you realize that the emotions and symptoms were not you own and that you are not losing your mind. Even if you have your empathy under control, there will be those times when some emotions and pain sneaks up on you and because you’ve been busy and not paying attention you find yourself not sure if it is really you or not. But don’t feel silly if you end up running off to the emergency room a time or two (yes, I have done that) because it is better to be safe than sorry and I think it is very responsible to get checked out to be sure nothing is wrong. Sure it leave you feeling silly…but at least you will be a very relieved person even if feeling a little silly.download film Psycho 1960

As a last note I would like to add…talk to your friends and family about themselves. Ask them how they have been feeling and what is new with them. Often you will realize some of the things you have been feeling belong to them. Then you will also feel good having the opportunity to talk to them about things that are going on with them. It may not cure them but it will make them feel so good seeing someone take an interest.

Are Empath’s and Psychic’s the Same?

To be an empath versus psychic (aka spiritually aware, awakened, etc.) at times seem like they should be both classified as psychic. And no wonder if you take a look at Meridian-websters definition of Psychic which is:

  • -lying outside the sphere of physical science or knowledge : immaterial, moral, or spiritual in origin or force
  • -sensitive to nonphysical or supernatural forces and influences : marked by extraordinary or mysterious sensitivity, perception, or understanding

And emapthy is defined as such in their online dictionary:

  • the imaginative projection of a subjective state into an object so that the object appears to be infused with it
  • the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner ; also : the capacity for this

So with the definition of psychic it is clear that it is pertaining to having knowledge where you can’t explain how you have it scientifically whereas with empathy it can be scientifically explained. See the following articles regarding mirror neurons in the brain:streaming movie First Kill 2017

Empaths feel and transmute negative energy. When an empath talks of other things like knowing who it is they are feeling and having insight into peoples thoughts…that deeper insight that goes beyond just feeling, they are actually utilizing psychic abilities in conjunction with their empathy. And just because there is a chakra that is responsible for emapthy and there is also chakras responsible for the functioning of psychic abilities, that makes no difference. There is a chakra that controls fear as well but that doesn’t make fear a psychic ability.

Empathy is also genetic and it looks like scientist are getting closer to proving that. See the following article:

Empathy Partly Based On Genes, Mouse Study Shows – http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/02/090211082354.htm

Also with psychic ability information it is actually coming from some where/someone. For example, information from spirits, akashic records, etc.

Everyone is born with psychic abilities. Not everyone’s abilities stay awakened and opened however. But everyone has the abilities and can awaken their abilities. I guess you will not know what abilities are your strengths until you awaken.

So I would say that as an empath you’ve got maybe what might feel to you as a shorter way to go to get to calling yourself PSYCHIC.

I would say that no empathy and psychic ability are not the same. You can become psychic through development however you can’t become an empath through development and practice. If you are not emapthic but want to be then you would want to develop clairsentience.

Are You An Empath? – Traits of an Empath

Well, what would my blog be without discussing the traits of an empath. The reality is that some times it is very hard for one to know if they are really an emapth. I did not know for most of my life and even when I began suspecting I didn’t know how to figure out if I was or not.

Basically it is simple. If you identify with many of the traits (although maybe not all) then that tells you that you need to keep reading about empathy because most likely YOU ARE AN EMPATH.

Still unsure and want some help getting down to the nitty gritty for once and for all…join a message board and explain the things you experience and get some feedback. That is not only a great way to find out but also you will probably get some really good advice at the same time. Here on my blog I have some links to message boards and forums.

Now on to the good stuff…

Empath is the ability to feel others emotions (actually emotional and physical) as though they were your own. Also empaths can read and understanding others as though they were them. That the simple no-nonsense definition.film Before I Fall trailer

TRAITS OF AN EMPATH

  • Often quiet but emotionally expressive most of the time. 
  • Some empaths have gotten so use to blocking emotions that they may seem the opposite from what an empath should be. Possible at times not wanting to be touched even by those closest to them. Often not feeling like being out in a crowd but rather alone or in a small group.
  • Uncontrolled empaths can often spend more time focused on others and ignoring their own needs. Empaths often put others first
  • Empaths often avoid tense or harsh situations. They may shrink away from any situation that proves tense.
  • Empathsare emotionally sensitive to violence and general chaos. Yelling… oh yelling is not an empaths favorite to be in the midst of. Now let me say that some Spanish people tend to talk loudly any way but this is not a bad thing for empaths if the emotions are positive ones. I wanted to mention that cause I’ve had many of my friends bring that up to me and I wanted to set the record straight…I often spend time at my neighbors house and she is Spanish and husband is Islamic and with all the yelling sometimes I still feel right at home. lol. I just love them!
  • Empaths can often feel something as they see it happen…for example, seeing someone cut their finger an empath may sense the pain as it happens.
  • Distance does not affect what an empath feels and often you may be able to feel or sense something going on with someone at a far distance.
  • Empaths are sensitive to loud noise.
  • Empaths are sensitive to various television programs. In particular, television programs that depict emotional drama like the news and police shows as well as movies which depict certain emotional or harsh situations.
  • Empaths have a hard time understanding cruelty and criminal acts that involves hurting others.
  • Empaths are super sensitive to suffering in the world and are often idealists who theorise about fixing the worlds problems.
  • Are often found working as volunteers, with people, animals or the environment.
  • Empaths are often drawn to areas of music or the arts.
  • Empaths are often very charismatic and have the ability to draw others to them. They often find that a complete stranger will tell them their life story while standing in line at the grocery store.
  • Are great listeners as they generally have an interest in other people and to know more of what they already sense of a person.
  • Can seem very moody with drastic mood swings. This is mainly due to picking up the emotions of others without realizing it and then with those emotions reacting to others.
  • May have experienced other paranormal experiences such as out of body experiences, De Ja Vu, and just knowing as well as other psychic abilities. 
  • Empaths often have trouble focusing and space out/day dream often.

Child Empaths and School Systems

Well the title of the post says it all I think. I receive a call from my childs school recently, it’s a Christian School and I mention that because…well I’m not sure. Maybe I think they should be more sympathetic because of that. The office called and told me I needed to come get my son because they thought there was something wrong with him and they weren’t sure what but they had just come in from playing and my son complained of a stomach ache and even was rolling around on the floor crying and screaming and because of that they thought he really had a stomach ache. I thought it odd because he he had never behaved that way before and even they mentioned that. I asked them to put him on the phone and to make a long story short at my insistence that I would take him to the doctor after picking him up he admitted he didn’t have a stomach ache and just wanted to come home. By the way he is 4 yrs old and really great at making things up and is very convincing. lol. I knew two main things that were wrong almost immediately. He has Sickle Cell Traits and he needed more water after having been outside for at least 30 minutes running around and playing. The second thing was that I was sure he had picked up a connection to someone because they said one second he was fine and the next second he wasn’t. That sudden change of the way he felt and his mood was a big clue. Since I live close to the school I went to the school and found him in the lunch room sitting in a chair by himself next to the door. They treat children who may be sick, regardless of the illness, as though they may be contagious and need to be isolated. Yeah, right, isolation always makes me feel better, how about you? lol. Anyway, I placed my citrine crystal in his hand and asked him to hold it for me as I started talking to him about how he felt. I just chatted with him because on the ride over I cleared his connections and protected him. I also asked Archangel Michael and Jesus to stay with him and keep him clear of connetions and help him. I got an immediate confirmation that they would. After a few minutes of chatting with my son he stated that he wanted water and to eat, which he had been refusing to do and this also helped to convince the teachers that something was wrong with him. But with the connections cleared and then him holding the citrine crystal and that absorbing any energy to started feeling better right away.

The reason I bring all this up is because with so many children being empaths I think it’s ashame that not many teachers or school administrators even know what an empath is. I had a talk with one of the administrators that day about my child being an empath. She had never even heard the word “empath.” I also know many children who are empaths and their parents don’t have a clue and I watch them try to help and figure out what’s wrong with their child who is totally flipping out and I feel…bad for everyone involved. At my sons karate school I often talk to and console children who are upset and being affected by their empathy. How does that help? Because empaths are natural transmuters of negative energy just calming talking to a child and smiling at them and sharing an energy exchange leave them a little clearer.

For the past year I have been thinking about ways to push out the knowledge of empathy to people. The medical community is already doing this among their own but more is needed to educate people about empaths and that such people exsist in large numbers…large enough to justify the majority at least knowing what an empath is.

Oh, and by the way, my son stayed at school that day and way just fine. When I went to pick him up from school his teacher was still baffled and saying that she was sure by the way he was acting that something really was wrong with him. Still to this day…she is puzzled. lol.

Control and Develop Your Empathy – Grounding, Protection, Connecting and Cutting Cords

Most empath’s would look at this title and cringe. In their minds they would ask “Why would I want to develop this more? To torture myself even more?” Although it seems that is what you would be doing because most think of empathy as a gift similar to psychic skill and they would think to develop means to bring out more that which I already have. That is true but also while you are bringing out the skill more you are also learning to control it. That control is what an empath needs to live a happy, satisfied, non-torture feeling life.

I am not an expert at helping anyone develop a skill. I don’t consider myself the Empath Teacher at all. But it is so true that someone who has developed and where you maybe want to be one day has something to offer even if it is just some tips and how-to’s.

There are a few things that all empath’s should learn that are important on the road to developing their empathy:

  • Grounding
  • Protection
  • Clearing chakra’s
  • Learning to quickly close chakra’s
  • Dissassociation

Grounding

Picture small roots growing out of the bottom of your feet down, down, down to the core of the Earth. Imagine that there is a large quartz crystal at the core that your roots connect to. Next visualize a small spot on the top of your head (your crown chakara) opening up and fibers emerging reachiing up and up similar to the roots you visualized coming from your feet. Visualize them growing up and up and connecting to the heavan’s, central sun, moon, a planet, etc. Sit for a few moments and breath in energy from both below and above and visualize that energy entering your body. In doing this you are both centering and grounding yourself. Do this every morning and anytime you feel insecure, emotional, and always before meditation or any spiritual or healing work.

Basic Protection

Simply affirm “I surround myself in Christ White Light of love and protection” as you visualize yourself being surrounded by a bubble of bright white light. Do this every morning and anytime you feel anxious or fearful. Also before going to bed. It is all in the intention so feel free to state what can’t through your bubble of protection. In the beginning you may feel the protection is not working or not having much affect. The more you practice protection the stronger it become as you build up your energy and visualization skills.

More about Protection

One of the most important things I must mention is that if this is new to you, it takes time to build and strengthen your protection. In the beginning it will not be strong and you may even feel as though the protection/shield you are putting up is not working at all. Well it is part a state of mind. If you believe in it then it is real and it works. But in the beginning it is hard for some to imagine that just visualizing a shield actually works. Some have a hard time believing in that which they cannot see. In that regard you can understand why it takes time. Also it takes time to build up your energy. Although I am not recommending this but for me it was a little bit easier because before I began practicing protection I had been attuned to Reiki. This of course increase my energy and vibration. Also I had gotten into the habit of praying several times a day so I would use prayer in conjunction with my protection. I simply believed that nothing could conquer a prayer and so that was true for me because I sincerely believed that. Also i often practiced visualization (something you would also want to practice when for developing clairvoyance) and this helped me to visualize my protection better.With that said I want to go over some methods of protection.
The Simple Bubble Protection

This one is a great one to start with. Simply visualize (eyes open or closed whichever is easier for you) an opaque and solid bright white bubble surrounding you. It does not matter its shape. Just go with what comes to you as far as the shape. It should extend about a foot around you and don’t forget to focus just as much attention to the part of the bubble above and below you. Visualize that anything that touches your shield will go over and around it and not penetrate it. Also visualize that when your shield comes in contact with anothers that it will bend but not break. Hold the visualization of your shield for at least a minute or two and then you are ready to go about your day like normal. Rest assured your shield is there and moves with you.

The Mummy Wrap

I love this one because for me it is an easier one for me to visualize for some reason. You know how a mummy is wrapped. We are going to do the same thing but our material will be bright white light that we are wrapping ourselves with. Start by visualizing a bright white ball of light above your head. Visualize it as long as you need to for you to attain the most brightness possible. Next imagine that a bright white light ribbon begins coming out of the ball and begin visualizing it wrapping around your head. Leave an appropriate space between yourself and the ribbon. Continue wrapping yourself and as you do imagine that it is like glued in place with no spaces. When you get to your feet visualize it wrapping underneath your feet and completely surrounding you. Hold this visualization for a minute or two.

Burning Flame Protectionstreaming Despicable Me 3 film

A protection such as this would be used for emergency situations and for short amounts of time since it takes more of your energy. If you suddenly find yourself in a highly negative environment or situation or you are under psychic attack would be example of times when this type of protection will come in handy. It does require more focus and concentration, so if you have been meditation 10-15 minutes a day you should be able to accomplish the focus you need easily enough.

Stand with feet together and arms at your side. Breath and go inside yourself deep into your center where there is your intense powerful source of energy. Let me not that I usually visualize bringing energy in and down through my crown and into my stomach from the sun. The sun is hot right? So I find this helpful for this type of protection. I buildup the energy in my stomach and then visualize that in my center a flame is burning that grows larger and larger until it bursts and is burning from your center all the way outside yourself bursting into a bright blue flame with the curved base of the flame under your feet and the tip of the flame above your head. This flame will not burn you but will stop anything from being able to come close to touching you. Try to keep part of your focus on this flame as you are in the negative situation. As you breath and exhale imagine your exhaling fueling the fire. Of course you really need to practice this protection method before you actually need to use it.

About Colors and Patterns

There are other things you can do to strengthen the basic protection and the mummy protection. Visualize blue light or other colors that you feel moved to used. Try various colors to see their effect and see if you find a color of protection that works better for you or better in certain situations.

Visualizing protection that has constant changing color patterns is very hard to penetrate because it is every changing. You can also experiment with the shape of your protection.

In the future I will be writing another article about some other protection methods I use that serve multiple purposes.

So far we have gone over the basics of grounding and protection. By now you should be at a point where you feel not only comfortable with grounding and protecting but also more confident. Before doing any thing related to developing empathy, psychic abilities or just even doing chakra work it is very important that you ground and protect. Sorry to have to be redundant but I know for myself in the beginning even though I knew how important it was I would often forget at times myself. The reality is that some times you will have a busy day and maybe you do not take the time in the morning to ground and protect because you are running late or your 4 year old decides he’s going to cut his own hair and it side tracts you. So if you got busy and didn’t do it this morning, do it now.

So now it is time to purposely feel. As an empath you get use to picking up things here and there that you are not actually attempting to. You are probably use to feeling strangers in the grocery store checkout lane without any effort and feeling that you really didn’t need to know that the cashier was in a bad mood or that the person directly in front of you has some dental problem. True. But how about using that ability to your advantage? What things can you think of that would be useful to know? Whether your boss is in a good mood or whether you need to be on your best behavior and keep your distance? Whether a co-worker has ill intentions and is planning to stab you in the back? Whether your 5 year old is lying about who broke that vase?

In order to feel there needs to be a connection to what you are attempting to feel. Just like there are many ways to ground and protect there are various ways to connect to someone or some thing. Remember that everything is made up of energy regardless of what it is. Whether it is a chair, your dog, your rose bush or your neighbor it is all made up of energy. Everything also has an different energy signature or vibration. No two are the same although to feel it may be hard to differiciate many times. The best place to begin learning to connect and to begin empathically feeling is right in your own backyard. The trees, the grass, that blooming plant you favor so much, the bird that are perched on tree nearby, that cat that is walking by on his/her way home, etc.

Connecting

I will write about two different ways to connect. Before practicing it is best if you clearly understand how to disconnect, so do not gloss over that information.

When I connect to anything I visualize in my minds eye and imagine myself merging with the person or object. Okay, think of something you might see on Star Trek. You can either see yourself merging into the person or object or the object or person merging into you. Once you are conencted you should be able to feel that you are. Now this is very important…if you don’t know 100% how you feel you will have a hard time knowing when you are connected and feeling someone else. So before you say I did it and I don’t know if it worked or not, know that unless you have gotten to the point where you can discern what is your and what is not you will have a hard time knowing when and if you are connected. Hence one of the common problems of an empath, right? So what do you do? You will only learn to feel the difference by continually trying. Don’t give up because it is hard. Who said it would be easy? Not I. lol. But if you keep trying I assure you it will get easier and easier to feel what is and is not yours.

Connected, Now What?

Be still. Here is where meditating will help you. Through meditation you have learned to still and quiet your mind. Psalm 46:10 “Be still and know that I am God.” Ah ha…how many of you have heard that bible verse said? Key “BE STILL!” Quiet your mind and allow yourself to feel. Question yourself in your head and ask “What do I feel? How does this person feel? How does this tree feel?” etc. As you are connected and are starring at that tree and seeing its branches blow in the wind, do you feel it…the swaying of the tree? Can you feel yourself start to sway?

It is a good idea to keep a note book or journal on your computer to note your experiences and what you feel specifically. Because often you feel things you don’t quite know what you are feeling. If you are connecting to your best friend and you feel something strange you have never felt before area your jaw area and then later she/he tells you they had a bad toothache or just had wisdom teeth pulled, you can then connect the feeling. This is not easy. Do not assume thatyou will know what it is that you are feeling exactly. It takes time to learn what verious things feel like whether it comes to physical feelings or emotions. Sometimes you just know because you have felt the feeling before and you can tie it to something from your past experiences. Like for example, you may feel someone’s emotions and think to yourself “Oh I remember feeling this way when I was young and had to move away from my best friend.” The more experiences you have had in life I do beleive the easier it is to discern what you are feeling.

Another way to connect is through your chakras. For example, when connecting to a person you visualize that a stream of energy that is cord like is going out from your charkas and connecting to the other persons chakras. So root chakra to root chakra, third eye to third eye, crown to crown, etc. When it comes to telepathy it is similar, so if you have taken any courses in telepathy such as “SANANDA COURSE IN TELEPATHY” this will be familiar to you.

Keep in mind that when you have a connection to someone or something it is a two way street. There is not just energy flowing one way but both ways.

Disconnecting / Cutting Cords

Disconnecting is actually very easy. The actual how to is simple. It is a matter of visualization and those of you who are great visualizers or day dreamers will find it easier. Not to worry though, the more you visualize the better and easier it will get. To disconnect from someone visualize seeing them a few feet away from you and a cord or stream of energy from you to them. You can imagine that you have a sword and you cut the cord. As you cut the cord you see the other person surrounded in a bubble of light floating up and away from you. Another method is to visualize that you see yourself pulling/yanking the cord out of them and it retracting back into you…and still seeing them afterwards surrounded by a bubble of white light floating up and away from you.

As you are disconnecing pay attention to what you feel. When you have finally disconnected you should feel a lightness or a lifting of the affects of the connections. Do a check! How do you feel? Do you still feel them? Are you aware of them and how they feel at all?

Should you have trouble disconnecting from someone…ASK FOR HELP! Ask your guide or higher self for help…ask them to sever the connection for you.

Privacy

Of course I have to bring this up. Often you will feel something that someone is feeling. Regardless of your ability that is still private information. You have an obligation and a responisiblity to be moral and ethical when it comes to knowing things about people. Don’t get caught up into trying to develop your empathic abilities so much that you cross the line. Often there are things people do not want anyone to know and do not want to openly discuss with you. Just because you can feel do not feel that it is your responsibility to help someone just because you can feel them. Be very careful and if you are unsure of what to do with information you receive…that is your answer…do nothing with it and keep it to yourself.

Develop Your Empathy – Charkas Connected to Empathy

I am writing this post for Lucille but hopefully this will be helpful to many of you.

Here is a senerio that is what I acutally experienced and lead me to deeply wonder if I was an empath…

Although all the signs were there I did not actually start seriously wondering if I was an empath until I was in my late 30’s after the birth of my son. I swear, I think having a child does something to change you so deeply. Parts of yourself that were always there unrealized start coming to the surface. Suddenly I couldn’t watch a movie or the news without totally losing it and bawling or shaking uncontrollably. I knew something was up but for about a year I just couldn’t figure out if I just never noticed that I was sensitive to certain things or if something was really changing within me…or awakening.

To make a long story short I started searching for information on emapthy but even reading about the traits still didn’t 100% convince me of whether I was an emapth or not but I had to know who I really was. Being adopted I always had a sense of not knowing but knowing there was more to me than what was on the surface. And so I searched like I was obsessed. lol. With every little bit of info I found it lead me to more. Empathy articles lead me to articles about meditation which lead me to info about chakras which lead me to information about psychic abilities and there it was again…empathy was mentioned and I had come full circle. But I was still feeling like “Ah Ha!” but still not knowing what it all meant specifically to ME. So I had learned a lot but still I had to know without a doubt the truth and so it seemed to me I would only find that out by opening and clearing my chakras.

I started by learning to meditate first…just 5 minutes at a time. Once I could meditate 5 minutes without my mind wondering and losing the stillness of my mind I began practicing opening and clearing the chakras in meditation starting with the foot charka and working my way up and then leaving the third eye/brow charka for last.

Approximately 3 weeks later it hit me suddenly. Just one day, just like that, I was fully awakened to who I really was…and empath. I left my house and drove to my parents house and two houses away I felt them. My Fathers cold, his head, my Mother medication issues, her allergies (not nice), etc. I was almost afraid to actually go in their house for fear of what I would feel standing right next to them.

Note that from the first time I opened and balanced my chakras I worked on them every day faithfully for approx 15-30 minutes a day. I say that to let you know…it doesn’t come easy…there is work involved. If you don’t do what is necessary or you don’t want to you will not achieve any results.

Now on to the good stuff.streaming Fifty Shades Darker movie

The three chakras that most affect empathy are:

SACRAL PLEXUS CHAKRA-
Located about two inches below the navel. This chakra is responsible for our sexuality, physical vitality, emotions, pleasure, desire, passion, love, change, new ideas, and health. It corresponds with all things forementioned. Stones that open this chakra are carnelian and coral.
Color: Orange, balanced by brown

SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA-

Located just below the chest. This chakra represents ability to pick up vibrations and tune in to energy from other people, places, and things. It corresponds with self-control, control of desire, authority, transformation, happiness, and energy. Stones that open this chakra are amber and citrine.
Color: Yellow, balanced by green

HEART CHAKRA-
Located over the heart. This chakra represents empathy and our ability to ground energy that flows through our bodies. It corresponds with feelings, forgiveness, unconditional love, understanding, compassion, trust, and openness. Stones that open this chakra are jade and aventurine.
Color: Green, balanced by pink

Here is a guided meditation that is 7 minutes that you can follow along with.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rFqHa4gOP3c

Do you want to know if your an empath?

I do believe I have figured out what it is I feel (using my clairsentience) if someone is an empath. Feel free to post a comment if you want me to try to get a read on if you are in fact an empath and any other info regarding abilities you are blessed with.watch full In the Eye of the Storm 2017 film online

Update 3/3/2015:

After creating this post back in 2009 and giving everyone the opportunity to find out from me if they are an empath I know there are still so many that question this and would like to know. Not just to know, but to know for sure whether they are or they are not.

It’s always hardest to evaluate your own self. I understand that. I have found that I don’t actually need to use my abilities to know whether someone is an empath because the experiences they have are very telling. Although I had the list of traits when I was trying to figure this out for myself I know I was still unsatisfied because I still felt I didn’t know for absolutely sure that I was an empath. I think the desperation to know comes from the tortured state you feel yourself in often. The suffering you do at the hands of what is going on with others energy. If you are suffering you at least want to know why you are sometimes suffering. It is not because we have weak boundaries. Only a non-empathic person would even suggest that because it is easy for them to do so when they are not walking in empath shoes and we know how people who have no clue on a subject like to give their two cents anyway.

I would say that if you are questioning if you are an empath it is not enough to have someone tell you the answer. What does that accomplish? What does that change? It is best to do some chakra work to clear yourself to see if the empathy comes to the surface strongly and then if it does start the process of becoming a controlled empath. The truth is that if you are suffering with your empathy but do nothing you will continue to suffer if all you do is have someone tell you whether you are an empath or not. Who would be okay with continuing to just suffer? The power in finding out if you are an empath is in being that person that values freedom to the point where they are willing to take steps to gain their freedom.


Read about the chakras connected to empathy – http://www.sherryspeaks.com/2009/02/develop-your-empathy-charkas-connected.html


Read about the real traits of an empath – http://www.sherryspeaks.com/2009/04/the-real-traits-of-empath.html


Read and learn how to develop and control your empathy – http://www.sherryspeaks.com/2015/03/control-and-develop-your-empathy.html

Empath Child Picking Up Others Emotions

I have written before about my son. I figure maybe my experiences and how I handle them might help others…or be an example of what not to do. lol.film Dunkirk 2017 trailer

Speaking of what not to do, do not try and argue with an empath toddler that is being affected by negative emotions they have picked up…because in the end there will be no winners although once your head explodes from frustration you will swear the child won. lol. However if you have a citrine crystal…sit him or her down hand them the crystal and talk to them…talk slowly. Talking slowly to someone has a calming hypnotic affect. Talk sweetly and lovingly the crystal will do the work of absorbing the negative emotions and break most of the connections. I say most cause it’s a crystal but not a magic wand. lol.

If because of the emotions your child has picked up they, in your view, are out of control and your ready to run for the hills and just let them have the house (we’ve all been there lol)…here is what you do. Take a moment and go into another room. Breath (pranic breathing if you can), relax, close your eyes if you prefer, and visualize that you have a sword and you are cutting the cords attached to your child. See the cords breaking and the people attached to them floating up and away in a bubble. Do this two or three times. Ta da! You just cut the cords for your child…feel proud and happy that you are doing a great job for your empath child. Pat on your back! Pat on your back! Pat on your back!

Empath Movie Review: War of the Worlds starring Tom Cruise

While most writings about this movie would probably be a review this one is a warning for Empath’s to be careful making the decision to watch this really good movie.download Despicable Me 3 2017 movie

Yes, it is a really really good movie and Tom Cruise never lets me down with his awesome acting. But being an empath I was very disappointed to not be able to get through watching this movie.

First of all there was a ferry scene where it showed the ferry being tipped over by an alien ship coming out of the water practically underneath the ferry which cause cars to roll off. They shot it from the point of view of a person, the son I think, who was in the water in the direct path of the cars rolling off. Although the actual impact was not shown it still had the same effect on me as if it had been. The was the first time in the movie I had to jump up. I jump up so fast from what I felt. I jumped up and hit the on/off button on my TV. Then I began to almost hyperventilate trying to get a hold of my emotions.

I did turn the TV back on 20 minutes later cause I got brave. lol. Soon I was jumping back up at the sites and sounds of cockroach looking aliens creeping around searching for their prey on a basement. The prey included a little girl and that made it even worse for me.

So empath’s of the world be careful watching this movie and have the remote handy just in case.

And here’s a review for None Empath’s – This is an awesome movie. If you liked the original War of the Worlds then you will totally love this version starring Tom Cruise. The acting is great and being an empath I can tell you that because with bad acting I feel nothing…good acting I feel what the actors intend me to feel. It will keep you on the edge of your sofa the whole way through the movie and many tiimes you will have to remind yourself to breath. lol. Well I couldn’t watch the whole movie obviously so this review is based on what I did see. lol.

Empaths Need To Raise Their Vibrations

Many empaths feel that empathy is a curse they can’t escape from. Sometimes when I am attracting a lot of peoples negative emotions and pain I start feeling the same way. I am not going to make you think that just because I have pretty good control over my empath that I never suffer. Sure it happens. But usually when I sit down and think about it there is a reason for it.

This past weekend I just couldn’t seem to break the connections to my parents. Of course the first thing I thought is “Why suddenly am I having trouble?” Unfortunately when i am not feeling well because of the emotions and pain I feel from others my head is not clear either. Connections sometimes feel like they cloud my head and it is hard for me to focus. But I get up the energy to do what I have to do for myself and also for others because if I am no good to myself I am no good the others or in helping to spread light. So I ask my spirit guides to help me, cut the cords (to others), drop/drain my energy down into the ground to be transmuted, ground, protect, and then bring in energy from Mother Earth and the source (central sun that I visualize is sitting behind the physical sun).

I feel that what comes next is where sometimes we make a mistake. At this point you think you are done and should be good to go. But what suddenly cause you to pick up those connections and start feeling everybody? There is one things that even I often forget about. Raising my vibrations.

Vibrations are like your frequency. The easiest way for me to explain it is that you want your vibrations/frequency to match up with what you want to come to you. Happiness, calmness, joy, good health, abundance. If you know anything about the Law of Attraction you understand what I am talking about. Raising your vibration means uplifting yourself into a positive place. Changing thoughts, emotions and our physical environment from the negative to the positive.watch film Fifty Shades Darker now

You want to be a vibration match to what you want to attract. If you picked up a connection to someone who is angry and frustrated and then you reacted with those emotions it brought your vibrations/frequency down. Basically you were brought down to the level where those angry and frustrated people are vibrating at. Of course you don’t want that because being down there you guess it, you will pick up more negative emotions and more connections to people who are at that frequency. For some of you the light bulb should have just come on with a big “Ahhhhhh haaaaaaa!” lol.free hosting no ads

So you get it right? You need to bring your vibrations back up so that you won’t keep empathically picking up those connections. There are many ways to do that and things you can easily do to keep those vibrations up.

  • Check your associations – If you are people who vibrate at a low frequency it will be harder to kept your energy up and continue vibrating at a higher frequency. In a way, you are who you associate with. If some of them are family or friend who you don’t want to break your association with just consider taking a break from them periodically.
  • Purify Yourself – Consider ways to remove or lessen the toxins in your body. A one day (or longer) juice fast, eating more fruits and vegetables, drinking plenty of water (an absolute must), etc.
  • Exercise – Even if just a cleansing walk outside to be with yourself and nature. Mother nature is very healing. Or perhaps just a walk barefoot in your own yard or garden taking plenty of time to breath and touch and communicate with all the plants. This is very grounding as well.
  • Smile & Laugh – Start smiling. It may not feel natural at first but you will notice it feels real good. Watch a funny movie or some comedy on television.
  • Music – Your favorite upbeat music is a great way to raise your vibrations. Get up and dance. On Grey’s Anatomy I love the part where they “Dance it out!” They are raising their vibrations and getting out of the funk of the day. Yes…it really does work! Don’t worry if you look silly…I am sure I do when I do it.
  • Hug a child – Ahhhhh the energy of a child is so nice. Now don’t get arrested by freaking out your neighbors by going after their kids and demanding a hug. Nothing will squelch your vibrations more than sitting up in a jail cell trying to explain that you are not the neighborhood pedophile. lol. Better yet if you have kids get down on the floor and play with them. Even though your idea of a good time may not be Leggo’s it will do wonders for your vibrations and getting your mind off of adult things.
  • Journal – I write in my journal at least every other day and of course I write here as well. It does wonders for me. I get things off my chest and do some wonderful self exploration. Sometimes you will find that messages just flow out from your higher self.
  • Meditate – if you can at least get into the habit of meditating every day if only for 10-15 minutes. Nothing fancy is needed. I just sit on my sofa with my feet on the floor, close my eyes, clear my mind and as thoughts enter I just push them away. Don’t worry if at first you can’t clear your mind. Before you know it you will be able to do this easily and you will start looking forward to that time.
  • Prayer – Did you know that prayer raises your vibrations. Well any spiritual activity raises your vibrations. You can say the rosary or just a simple prayer you make up. Not all people are on a spiritual journey so also consider saying mantras. The simple “Om” or “Om Gum Ganapatayei Namaha” which translates into “Hail the remover of Obstacles, symbolized by Ganesh.” I will post some mantra’s along with how to pronounce them and their meaning.
  • Use Creativity – Do some arts and crafts, practice an instrument, work on your garden, etc. I am sure you can think of some creative things you like to do even if it is just working on a puzzle. I am not really sure if playing online computer games work but I don’t see why not.

By the way, raising your vibration also helps to develop your psychic abilities.

Empathy – An Introduction to the Violet Flame

The reason I feel this has everything to do with helping the empath is because the violet flame is transmuting and has the ability to affect change and turn the negative into positive. That’s got EMPATH HELP written all over it. lol.

The Violet Flame comes forth from the violet ray. The violet ray is one of freedom, mercy, forgiveness and transmutation. The ascended master St. Germain, who attained ascension in 1684, bring to us the gift of the violet flame. I think that it is also important to know that because at anytime you can call on St. Germain for help in using the violet flame. St. Germain, serving on the seventh ray, also is known as the “Lord of the Seventh Ray” and is the seventh angel prophesied in Revelation 10:7 who, “when he shall begin to sound, the mystery of God shall be finished, as he hath declared to his servants the prophets”.

How wonderful is the violet flame? Well you tell me. The violet flame raises your level of consciousness and heals body, mind, spirit and soul. Yes, this also means illness, disease and psychological problems. But hey…don’t get the idea to ditch your doctor thinking you can attain mastery of the violet flame over night. After all, St. Germain lived many lifetimes working on attaining ascension embodied as the prophet Samuel, Saint Joseph, protector of Jesus, Saint Alban, Merlin, Roger Bacon, Christopher Columbus, and Francis Bacon. The violet flame is transmuting of the negative into positive and is a way to accelerate spiritual growth. It is a tool to help in you physical, spiritual, maternal and emotional life. Remember that nasty “K” word – Karma? The violet flame has the power to TRANSMUTE cause, effect and often the memory of our past mistakes. All that should by now have you thinking “Wow! What do I do next and where can I find this violet flame?”

I think that before beginning to use the violet flame that it is important to understand it completely. Reason is that then when it is used it is in the back of your mind all that it can and is doing for you and this ties a little bit into the POWER OF THOUGHT. Through the POWER (or SCIENCE) OF THE SPOKEN WORD you may see, feel, and feel the violet flame when it is called forth/invoked correctly.Watch Full Movie Streaming Online and Download

The POWER OF THE SPOKEN WORD combines prayer, meditation and visualization – what is called dynamic decrees. Dynamic decrees work to affect permanent and positive change because they are designed to invoke the fires of God.download Fifty Shades Darker 2017 movie

I am going to end this port here because basically what comes next is how to use the Violet Flame and that as you can imagine is a whole post in itself. I am trying really hard to not make my posts too long so the reading is easier and quicker but alas I seem to be having a hard time doing that. lol. So, thank you so much for reading and I will try hard to cut down on the lengths when I can.

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Empathy – Citrine Crystal During Hospital Stay

I of course had to share this with you. Because of my Sickle Cell Disease I have found myself in the hospital on more than a few occasions. Never though have I taken my crystals with me. Often during my stays I am very affected by the emotions of the over worked nurses and if I have a roomate, my roomates illness. So for me a hospital stay is usually a very extreme roller coaster ride that leave everyone thinking I have serious mental issues. On top of that I am usually bothered by spirits often during my stay and don’t sleep as well as other patients…but that’s any story.

So this time I took with me my citrine crystal that absorbs negative energy and never needs to be cleansed and my snowflake obsidian which is for protection. I do believe it was the citrine crystal that was most beneficial though. My roommate yelled at me at four in the morning regarding the TV being on. My mistake…I just figured since the bright lights were all on and there was an endless parade of nurse and techs in and out taking blood, vitals, taking more blood, giving me morphine, taking more blood, and taking more blood (lol) what would it matter if the TV is on. I didn’t know it but my roommate had problems sleeping and had been requesting sleeping pills the whole time she was in there. Normally at being yelled I would have been emotionally hurt, but I wasn’t. Yes, I did pick up her anger and then felt very pissed off but what ended up happening is instead of being quiet and turn the other cheek-ish I gave it right back to her and in the process rid myself of it. I would never do that on purpose of course but hey I was on morphine and wasn’t really thinking straight at the time.

In the morning at a reasonable hour I turned the TV on. She without saying anything turned the channel to an all spanish channel without saying a word to me…like I wasn’t even there. I was already frustrated having to be in the hospital and I wasn’t rational with the morphine so that was just the last straw for me. Oh boy did I Bitch! I kind of even surprised myself. I wasn’t nice and shy and timid as usual…I was quite ready for anything she had to dish out. I wasn’t feeling any of the negative emotions from anyone…I mean I was picking them up empathically but they were not affecting my behavior to the point of me not just being me. To make a long story short I threaten to check myself out (not just because of that…there were other things as well) and that is when the nurse said that they had already had to move patients out of the room because of this woman because her problem was that she wanted a private room so she was trying to bully her roommates. It ended in a lot of yelling and crying…as I sat quietly and just let things flow, feeling unaffected because of my friend…the Citrine Crystal.Alien: Covenant film download

Note…I am not condonning any of my behavior while in the hospital so please don’t think I am saying it is okay to behave the way I did. There was a lot going on at the time and I ended up there for a reason. You could say it was a lesson for me and I had recently asked for help with something and let just say I came out of the hospital with a major problem I’d been having solved.

Empathy – Scientifically Speaking

Even though many know that empathy has been researched on a scientific level it still amazes me how many people tell me they just don’t believe it or think that it points to a medical problem. I know, I know…that is like saying it is a bad thing to be able to relate to people more deeply when most people would agree that socially speaking it is probably considered healthier and more socially acceptable to be able to empathize more. Else why would they have many many classes and programs related to being more empathetic, especially for the medical professionals.

I have been asked in the past how I can PROVE the abilities I say that I have by skeptics. Although I understand where skeptics are coming from by asking that question of course the question bothers me a little. For me, when they ask that question what I hear is “Prove you exist. Prove you are real.” I admit that I just want people to take my word for it, of course isn’t that easier than feeling like you have to prove yourself and of course everyone wants to be believed and accepted so it’s not a surprise that that question bothers me. Don’t get me wrong though…feel free to ask that of me because I do think on the positive side it is a chance to open up communications and make people more aware of empathy and the people who live with it all their lives. So I say ask away. lol.Kong: Skull Island 2017 live streaming movie

That leads me to the reason for this post. I want to have a post that contained links to scientific material regarding empathy. Take some time and take a look at what the scientist have discovered about empathy.

How your brain handles love and pain – Scanners reveal mechanisms behind empathy and placebo effecthttp://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/4313263/

Empathy for Pain Involves the Affective but not Sensory Components of Painhttp://www.sciencemag.org/cgi/content/abstract/303/5661/1157

Empathy is hard-wired into the mind, study finds
http://articles.latimes.com/2007/mar/22/science/sci-empathy22

Empathy and the brain
http://www.parentingscience.com/empathy-and-the-brain.html

Mirror Neurons in the Brain and Empathy
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/body/mirror-neurons.html 

Rare neurons linked to empathy and self-awareness discovered in monkey brains
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/05/120521115353.htm

Empathy and Crystals

I have found certain crystal that have been beneficial to my empathy. They are Citrine and Breacceated Jasper. I am more partial to citrine since it never has to be cleaned but the breacceated jasper was recommended to me by someone at a shop in the spiritualist town of Cassadaga.

Properties of Citrine

This wonderful stone is associated with the Solar Plexus and it DISSIPATES all kinds of negative energies (clears the aura of negative energies and influences). The awesome thing about this stone is that it DOES NOT absorb any negative energy and therefore never has to be cleaned. Not only can it be used to clear negative energy for its environment but also family issues caused by negative issues are resolved and cleared by this little gem.

Citrine also relieves depression, anger and irrational mood swings. It is also good for dream recall and dream work and I can attest to that. When I place citrine under my pillow at night I have a much easier time recalling dreams but holding on to them longer after I awake.Despicable Me 3 2017 movie

Properties of Brecciated Jasper (also known as Brecceated and Bracciated Jasper)

If you want stone which will help to keep your feet solidly on the ground, promoted tranquility and wholeness then this is the stone for you. Although I need to look into it further I have also read that it is a dream inducer stone. I will have to actually test that to tell you if I think it is true however.

This form of jasper contains hematite and is the reason it has grounding properties. It is said to encourage empathy and communication with animals.

I hope this information was helpful. If you are an empath who have found a crystal to be helpful to you please post a comment so other can know as well. Thanxs! Smile!

Empathy and Just Knowing

Okay this is for those that know they are empaths as well as those who are still not sure yet if they are. This article is meant to start you at least thinking about experiences you have had in the past and for some of you this may just fill in some more blanks…more pieces to that puzzle as I always say. lol.

Here’s a senerio that I actually experienced. Someone says something to you. A phrase that seems innocent enough and maybe even seems like it is meant to be a compliment. You heard the words the person said but from them you get a feeling that what was said was very negative. It even makes you possibly feel bad as though what was said was an insult instead. Then on top of that you just seem to know what the person was actually thinking which doesn’t match up with what was said. So maybe they said “That good that you had a good day.” But what you picked up underneath those words was something more sarcastic and negative and you suddenly know that they are thinking you are a big ole slacker that needs to get a job.

Another scenario is maybe you are watching a conversation between two people. As you watch them you clearly pick up that one has great distaste for the other. Or maybe you pick up that one doesn’t believe what the other is saying.

BUT…what often happens when scenarios such as this happen is that we put it off thinking how could we possibly know and that it is just our good imaginations running away with us. We often ignore these feelings and just knowing that comes to us. Well, stop ignoring them. If you give attention to and notice these things then you will develop more.

Let me explain what is happening when these scenarios present themselves. First of all the heart chakra is connected to empathy. The crown chakra is connected to just knowing. So it is the two chakras working together during these scenarios. Another example of two chakras working together like this is the brow chakra and the crown chakra. The brow chakra is connected to clairvoyance (clear-seeing) in which you see within the minds eye. And it’s not all about seeing spirits (they should make up T-shirts that say “I don’t JUST see dead people!” lol) it is about when giving a psychic reading you are given symbols which you must translate to give the person you are reading the information. For example, if giving a reading where the person asked for information about a troubled relationship and you are shown (in your minds eye) a snake then you could translate that to mean the person should not be trusted. Know what if you had a crown chakra that was open and clear and that you spent some time developing? Then because of that well developed crown chakra you would have Claircognizance (just knowing) working along with your clairvoyance which would help take some of the guess work out of what you were being shown. You would be shown a snake but would JUST KNOW that it was because the friend couldn’t be trusted maybe because the friend was jealous…just as an example.

So that give you some insight into what is going on when you have empathy but many times just know things. That means your crown chakra is most likely open although possibly not fully open and clear. I know many of my answers to comments involve doing chakra work and mediation. You can see from this article some of the reason for that. Now go google chakras and what the different chakras do and let’s get started being more open and using those abilities more to help us in our everyday lives. ?

I had finished this post but feel I need to give you more information about just knowing because it is difficult to find good information on how just knowing works on the internet. So let me give you more of what I have learned from having this ability.download film War for the Planet of the Apes 2017

At a point where I knew I had Just Knowing but still didn’t fully understand how it worked many things I couldn’t explain were happening often. I was active on a psychic development message board and often I would read posts but instead of just reading what was there I would actually read things that weren’t there. Many times people got upset with me. Can you imagine? I would reply to posts and address what was said or asked as well as what wasn’t said. Some would just be baffled and some would get clearly upset…including myself since I at the time didn’t understand what was happening or why. I brought that up to show you that this ability transcends everything. It doesn’t just work when speaking with someone…there are different forms of communication and your abilities works with any form of communication. Don’t think that because you are simply reading an email that you will not pick up things. Phone, email, text messages, a voice-mail, television news report, etc. Your abilities are a part of you and it doesn’t matter the technology.

Another way that just knowing often works is you may notice that it doesn’t kick in until you are communicating with someone. You don’t know now, but start to speak and it just comes to you. Often when I write a respond to someone before I actually start typing I haven’t a clue, but then after I start typing things come to me. Not automatic writing but the just knowing most likely comes out during the process of writing because of where my focus if placed.

There may be several reason my crown chakra developed to that point since I really don’t do a lot of chakra work on my crown chakra. Possibly because I spent a great deal of time praying for extended periods of time including praying the rosary, also chanting mantras in and out of meditation, etc. The crown chakra is where you connect to Spirit, Wisdom, Channeling, and Healing Channels.

Want to know more about the crown chakra? This sight has great information. Wow, when I read this article my crown chakra…my whole head really started vibrating. http://www.eruptingmind.com/how-to-open-crown-chakra/

I am sorry…I have added to and updated this post so many times it’s not even funny. lol. It’s my insatiable need to want to help people…I keep thinking of other things that may be of help to you. This one you will totally love though. I have in Word format exercises which balance the left/right brain function. Now, if you have read the article that is at the above link then you will know why I am offering this to you to use. I will post it but in the meantime if you want it you can email me at sahorlando1065@hotmail.com and I can send it to you via email.

Empathy: Feeling Casey Anthony

Many may not like that I am going to say this but I feel very sorry for Casey Anthony and her parents. I try not to watch the news because the news portrays all the bad in the world and only about 1% of the good if on a given day we are lucky. And as an empath watching the news is very hard anyway because I pick up peoples emotions quite strongly, that is if I let my guard down. There is a part of me that believes I am led occasionally to let my guard down so that I can see the truth of things sometimes. I think the happened today.

As I was watching the news, news of Casey Anthony being released from jail for the third time was on. I was half watching as I checked my email. At one point I glanced up as she was coming out of the doors behind two HUGE bodyguards. As a side I must say if I ever need guarding people give me guys that big and intimidating. lol. Anyway, there was a shot that showed her clearly and suddenly I felt the connection. A second later (well, as the driver jumped into the front seat of the truck to drive her away) it hit me. I felt overwhelmed. Like a feeling of “I can’t believe this is happening.” And then crying as I felt what she felt as she heard the helicopters overhead following them.

That is all I really want to say about the things I felt with the sudden connection. This is why I feel for them. It’s not up to me or anyone to judge anyone. The gift I was given is the gift to feel and then have compassion regardless of the situation.

Read what Certified Medium Michelle Caporale read from Caylee’s photo
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Update 9/18/08 –

I am going to add this to the post since many seem to be reading that are not just seeing what I wrote from the view of an empath. I understand…this is a very emtional subject so I don’t take any of your comments personal…although I think some of you want me too. lol. I still love you all…and if saying that makes me a freak…well, I guess I am just a freak and loving it.

From what I know from use of my psychic empath abilities (and keep in mind I could always be wrong)…Caylee is gone she was smothered, restrained…somthing like that which is hard to pin point because I was feeling it. Her mother did it. Caylee did cross over. I also have the ability of just knowing although not well developed…from that I originally got that Casey mother knew what happened to Caylee and that she found out after she had already made the call to the police about the smell in the car.

Other than that…what can I say I think I have cried for every one involved and been shocked by the actions of the protesters and their behavior…some times intention can be good but even with good intention you can cross the line. I do think that Casey has mental problems and that her family is well aware of them and her capabilities to be the good actress which I think comes from whatever her mental problem is.

Now maybe everyone can stop thinking that I am an uncaring moron. lol.

Sherry

Energy Drainers, Family and Friends

Do you have any of these in your life? Unconscious energy drainers? They could be any one in disguise. Parents, siblings, in-laws, neighbors, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, best friend, someone you think is a friend, etc.

If you are an empath you know where I am going with this. People innocently may be thinking about you, of course thinking that there is no harm in thinking of someone. But maybe your best friend is mad at you because you cancelled on her for a day of shopping. As she is thinking of you and sending out negative energy filled with anger. Guess where that energy is going? That’s right, it is going to the person she is focused on – YOU!film xXx: Return of Xander Cage 2017 online

This energy you are receiving in this way is powerful because anger and frustration are very powerful emotions energy wise. As an empath if you do nothing to ward of this negative energy and do not protect yourself from it then it can quickly make you so sick that within hours you are laying down in pain feeling almost unable to move. Possibly your head may feel like someone is stabbing it sharply or squeezing it to the point of a dizzying effect. Then you may also feel nauseous from the overwhelming amount of negative energy. Not to mention that if the person thinking of you also has other issues like a headache, toothache, etc. you are going to possible feel those pains as well.

Unfortunately many times people don’t let go of the past that easily. They don’t just easily say “Okay, I am over that now.” and then move on quickly. No, many stay angry all day and all night and then again they get angry all over again every time they think about you or see you. For an empath this seems like never ending torture that may end one day but starts right back over again the next.

For those who are not empath’s you may think they are getting off easy, but they are not. To send negative energy to someone it has to come through you to be sent to them even if you are not consciously doing it. So the person unconsciously sending out the negative energy is going to in the end be even more affected by it than the empath. Once the empath blocks the negative energy they are safe and secure within that protection, however the person sending out the negative energy is effected by it and then has to deal with the law of cause and effect. That which you send out into the universe is coming back at them. Notice that many people whi send out a lot of negative energy (although on the surface they seem just fine) suffer from illnesses, ulcers, heart problems, and unexplainable medical problems.

As an empath if you are finding yourself suddenly on the receiving end of negative energy the best thing to do is to use the fire protection method, however remember that it is really more useful for a short term need. What I prefer to do is to close my chakra’s and use the mummy protection in blue. If I am under psychic attack from someone purposely trying to hurt or drain me of energy then I usually go into my pyramid where no one can harm me or call on spiritual help from the other side.

If you are not an empath and you are reading this learn about the power of thought, get a good self help book on controlling your emotions, and the next time someone does something you do not like…send love and let it go for your own good health and theirs.

Educate people about emapth’s…send this to a friend.

Everybody Talking About Connecting Lately

Has anyone else noticed that lately everyone is talking about connecting. This year seems to be very much about people connecting. As an empath you tend to notice I think when people use certain words or phrases, especially ones that as en empath you usually use to describe who you are as an empath and what you do. I was doing some research on art contest and it seemed many of the themes were geared around people connecting.

Also on Oprah today she did a show on Spirituality 101 and she used the term connection also referring to people connecting. Then I was reading some where else and it was political news I think and again the mention of “connection.”  And I relate it to more than just the topic of empathy but spirituality in general. It just seems to me that some of the things I have been trying to talk to family and friends about for the past couple of years that I just felt they didn’t get and caused them to look at me funny, or in my Father’s case just mock me outright regarding my spirituality, they are finally relating to because the words are being heard else where and not just from me.

Leave me a comment if you have noticed some interesting things lately….or some things that have made you go “Hmmmmmmm.”

McCain Vs. Obama and the Empath Perspective

Fellow empath’s…I have been pondering something. I just like others want to hear McCain and Obama debate each other. I want to hear what both sides are saying they have to offer of course. I always like to think I am making the decision for who to vote on based on the facts and what is important and not based on these commercials that are both sides hitting below the belt and taking cheap shots. Although I am going to make my decision based on who I really think will do right by the United States of course there’s that empathic side of me again. Yes…again! lol.film Alien: Covenant download

It has me wondering how many of you empath’s out there have gotten insight that is coming from your empathic selves about the contenders? And are you planning to use that info in helping you to make your decision on who to vote for?

I am really interested to hear political comments from my fellow empath’s about how you feel your empathy may or may not play a role in your political decision making.

I will start it off with one little simple comment. Empathically Sarah Palin makes me feel fear. She actually scares me. My mother asked me why that is and I told her I can’t quite put my finger on it. Cause on the surface I like what I see but it is what I feel that doesn’t quite match up. Now of course I do not feel comfortable making a decision based on the feeling I am getting but it does have me wondering…what is it I am picking up? hmmmm. If I figure it out I will let you know.

Movies and Empathy

If you are an empath you are well aware of the effect movies showing tragedy, violence, etc. can have on you. It can feel very devastating from the inside out. You think you can handle it because you know what the movie will portray so you try to watch it thinking that your heads up on the content will make you strong. But then as you watch the movie you are hit hard by the emotions and even though you quickly reach for the remote to turn off the horrid scene you are watching it is too late.

With empathy there is no “catching it in time.” You will still be affect if even only a little. What little you saw will have a tendency to play over and over in your mind. But what do you do when you have turned if off but are still feeling the effects?

Wipe your tears first of all. Acknowledge that you have been affected and must do something to take care of yourself. If you are no good to yourself, you are also no good to anyone else either. If you have children, being that empath is genetic, you may affect them. That is good to keep in mind. They don’t just pick up emotions directly from the source of the emotions, but can pick it up in a second hand kind of way. You are affect my the movie and are carrying the emotions which they then pick up from you. And you more easily pick up emotions from people you are close to of course.watch The Exception movie online now

  • Calm yourself down with some deep breathing. Come on you can do this while doing other things so there is no excuse not to practice some prana breathing. Note: I will post the techniques of prana breathing next. The prana breathing will, it you just make the effort to envision it, help you bring in new air and energy into your body and on the exhale rid the old air and energy.
  • Replace the bad emotions with good positive emotions. Your favorite upbeat music. The comedy channel is one of my favorites to use for this purpose. Laughter is very strong medicine! Get you mind re-focused on so positive feel good thing! You may think to pick up the phone and call a friend. It may make you feel a little better but what if your friend picks up on your sadness? Now both of you are feeling down. Not good huh?

Hope these tips help you in the future as they have greatly helped me.

Thanks for reading.

The Amazing Empath Experience

I know that often times as empaths we spend a lot of time talking about feeling emotions and pain through connections, the pain of knowing the truth of what people feel for us because words and what people actually say to us mean nothing when what we can feel underneath those words differ and turn a simple conversation into a feeling of being stabbed in the heart. I have been to many of the sights and forums on the Internet that are dedicated to the empath experience or have articles related to emapths. It is not often that I come across an article that paints the a picture of beauty in empathy. Maybe that is because through pain and negative emotional feelings it is hard some times to see a beauty that may be right in your face.

Here’s some empath experiences to consider as you go about your day. Look up, around, and allow yourself to feel without fear of what you may connect to. Only then can you truly feel the treasure that was right in your face all along.live streaming film Aftermath 2017movie The Discovery 2017 streaming

As an empath I can close my eye and go back to time of my sons birth and re-experience that emotions of over-whelming love any time I wish. I can sit outside and a breezy day watching the trees sway and pick up a connection to them and sway along with them and feel how awesome it is to be them. I can watch a bird soar through the sky free and actually fell the breeze against my face as I too soar as high and as free, suddenly disconnected from being bound to the earth.

The Empathy Symbol

The empathy symbol stands for reaching out to the “other” and then opening up to truly understand each other. Use the empathy symbol to indicate your support for a world in which we all can get along.

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The Real Traits of an Empath

Hi all! I am always fishing my mind and surroundings to come up with posts that will be useful and helpful to readers. I thought and often think to myself about the time way back when I was trying to figure out if I was an empath. For years and years I thought I was but didn’t even have a clue how to figure it out mainly because of not understanding at the time what an empath really was. Even after reading definitions of what an empath was  I would still sit there and say to myself “Well, that still doesn’t help me figure out if I am in fact an empath.”streaming film The Circle 2017

In this post I will say what I honestly think and feel about trying to figure out if your an empath.

First, if you have come to this blog and are doing some reading it is no big surprise…it’s hard to figure it out. Knowing what and empath is and what an empath does will not help you figure it out. Being told by someone that you are in fact an empath will not help you either if you are like me and need some almost solid proof. To figure it out for yourself is to really know yourself. Lets face it, we all want to know ourselves…not be told about ourselves. Right? Then there are all the empath designated sites like this one that lists the traits of an empath. I also have a Traits of an Empath post on this blog and honestly I would like to remove it. It won’t really help you figure it out. Ya know, I will humbly admit that looking back at when I wrote that post I was just repeating what I had learned and the truth is we sometimes learn things along the way and realize that some info was just not as good or useful or accurate as we had thought. For example, some list a trait of an empath as “Empaths often have multiple pets.” That is not a really good trait to list of course. And the one that says empaths don’t like loud noise. Well, I know there are many empaths that are not bothered at all by loud noise.

Now, there is a reason though why the traits list doesn’t work to figure out whether you are an empath. Because at the time you go searching for answers it is because you are exhibiting some (but not all) signs that you may be an empath. Possibly you are noticing that sad or violent movies are affecting you more than in the past. Or maybe suddenly you are feeling more in tune with what is going on with other people as though you are reading then. And maybe you notice that you have this interesting affect on people. So, enough is going on with you to begin to question whether you are an empath but here is the problem. If you have not open and cleared all your chakras, especially your heart chakra, then you are not fully open to your empath self. Like your empath self may only be 25% open…not enough to know without a doubt whether you are an empath or not though.

And that is the problem. The reality is that to really discover who you are you hve to open up fully to who you are. I know it is kind of like me saying if you want to know if your an empath for yourself then you have to go through the process of opening and clearning all your charkas just to really be able to see for yourself.

So think about it…if the empath in you is only open 25% then you may not be able to relate to most of traits on the “Traits of an Empath” list. Honestly, before I fully awakened my empath self I didn’t match up with even half of the list.

I really don’t want to leave anyone hanging and feeling like there is no answer for them out there. I am going to work on a list that hopefully will be more helpful for those of you looking for answers. In the meantime feel free to ask for help and I will be happy to assist any way I can.

Here is where you can find my list of traits —> http://myjourney11.wordpress.com/2009/04/07/the-real-traits-of-an-empath-the-list/

The Real Traits of an Empath – The List

I tried to base this list on what I experienced before becoming a completely awakened empath. Some examples of experiences are from when I was young and some as recent as 10 years ago. Now that I am a skilled empath I look back and all of my past makes sense now. I hope you find this list helpful.

Weak Emotional Stability – picking up peoples emotions and not knowing it I often experienced mood swings. Some not so bad and others quite extreme. I could be fine one minute and totally pissed the next. I could be happy one moment and then sobbing uncontrollably the next.

Feelings Easily Hurt – Often I was called “too sensitive.” I would take criticism really hard. I can’t even say how many times I would be at work and have to go into the bathroom so no one would see me cry. My feelings were easily hurt deeply.

Always Friends With or Trying to Help The Underdog – I didn’t understand it but I was feeling the emotions of others to the point where I felt drawn to befriend them, try to help them, or just offer kind words even if it was a stranger I didn’t know. I once offer a co-worker who was crying (and had been crying for at least 30 minutes) the money she needed ($300) for her over drawn bank account if she would just stop crying. Yes, I was quite serious and would have wrote her a check on the spot if it would have gotten her to stop crying. My saying that to her did make her stop crying because she though it funny how desperate I was to get her to stop crying. She laughing for a couple of minutes and then to my horror when right back to crying again. lol. The best way I can describe it is that it is a feeling of “I don’t want to just console you, I want to cry with you.” You remember the saying “I am not laughing at you, I am laughing with you.” That says it all!Dunkirk movie

Not Loud Noise…loud Negativity – There is a big difference! Loud noise is fireworks on the 4th of July. Loud Negativity is being present or near and feeling the negative emotions of an argument between two people. Loud music to me is just loud music…and I get my groove on and enjoy it! lol. A difference of opinion between people who get a little loud when it comes to making their point and have a lot of emotion behind it because they greatly disagree with the other(s) view point is negative noise that I feel I want to get away from. For example, I love watching The View. But, pre-election when they would get into heated debates I would have to turn the channel…my stomach gets all knotted up and I start to feel like I could hyper-ventilate at any moment.

Knowing Whether You Are Liked– I always knew what someone felt for me. They wouldn’t have to say anything to me or about me for me to know. I could not only sense it but also sense the reasons behind it. Some times with a simple “hello” I knew it all. With just one word said to me Icould pick up the feelings behind it, so I was really good at sensing fake emotions or when someone was lying to me. There were many times before I knew I was an empath that someone could say one innocent word and I would have to fight off the tears because of the truth I felt behind it. Being an empath is very much about knowing the truth. It can’t be hidden from you no matter how hard someone tries because you can feel it.

Movies and the News Affect – You may or may not have trouble watching sad or violent movies and news stories. I didn’t always…it was something that started subtly and grew until it was so noticeable to me that something was up and I could no longer ignore it.

Relationship Problems– In relationships my emotional needs never felt satisfied. I really sorry I can’t elaborate on this. I honestly can’t explain it. But to give one example…I ended a relationship quite suddenly because of sudden feelings I picked up. I didn’t know where they came from but they felt like mine and boy did I act on it! I broke up with him on the spot and drove away with tires screeching, and as I drove away I racked my brain trying to figure out what had just happened and why I just ended my relationship. Empathy can sabotage a relationship when you are unaware that you are an empath and therefore act on emotions that are not your own. The hardest thing for an empath to get good at is knowing what is theirs and what is not. Once that is learned and you get a good handle on it life gets so much sweeter!

Exhaustion– When unaware that you are an empath and you are just walking around like a sponge sucking up all those emotions and making all those connections that go unbroken for days and days and just build up…it is very draining. Eventually you feel as though you have run out of energy in a big way. You may go days feeling tired. Maybe the drain of energy is happening during one of those long phone calls with a friends where they unburden themselves on you, about their day, their relationship, their co-workers, their parents, their kids, etc. They talk and you listen (maybe you are a great listener). This is draining to an empath and also considered a energy vampirism with the talkative friend being the energy vampire.

You Dont’ Think, You feel– I one day realized that I very rarely stated a sentence by saying “I think…” No, it was always “I feel…” I related to everything by feeling but didn’t really realize it. I often foudn it hard to explain myself to people. Of course, because often it was about feelings for me and I found it hard to put what I felt (what I knew from feeling) into words. I was once told by my father that I was very smart and good with computer but that when it came to explaining things I was very confusing. I know what I know…or rather I should say, I know what I feel but I have a hard time putting it into words that make sense. You can translate Spanish, French, etc but what about translating empathy and what you pick up as feelings?

I know this list is not very long, but I feel it is (and hope I don’t offend anyone by saying) more true to what a pre-awakened empath may experience/notice. Oh, see I did it again…notice I said “but I feel it is…” instead of “but I thinkit is…” lol.

Turning Off Emapthy

I wanted to write this post because I know there are many that are so open that they need the ability to get a little peace sometimes…a little vacation from emapthy.The best thing to learn is control of your chakras. With chakra control you will be able to open and close your chakras if and when a need ever arises. Now just because you can close your chakra that does not mean they will not open again by themselves or be opened by your spirit guides. Learning good control and the ability to close the charka’s quickly is actually a form of protection as well although in my opinion I do not feel it should be necessary to go to these lengths unless you are under a serious energy/psychic attack.

The best way to learn control of the charkas is through practicing chakra meditation regularly. Here is a simple 9 minute guided chakra meditation.Whiplash 2014 film download

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rFqHa4gOP3c

To close the charka’s you would do the opposite that you do to open them. The more you do the meditation and visualize it the better your visualization will become (hence you will be working on your clairvoyance/clear sight at the same time…yeah!) and at some point you will start seeing the colors of the chakra’s in your minds eye and possibly even see them spinning. Remember control comes through doing/practicing.

Happy Chakra’ing!

What I learned about my empathy

I have been wanting to write for some time about empathy. Often we want to write about what we know or live with but are concern that we don’t know enough. Some times you can’t know it all when it comes to certain subjects but often we know more than we think we do. And so I am now ready to give what I have to offer on the subject.

The most important thing to understand is that within a group of empath’s we are all not exactly the same as far as how our empathy affects us. If you do some reading on the many Empathy message boards on the Internet you will see that for yourself. Some of us only feel others emotions, some of us can feel emotions of people, animals, plants, etc. Some of us have deep empathetic skills where we know what a person is thinking and not just feeling. Like when you know what someone is going to say before they say it. I believe that is because they are thinking it and feeling it even before they say it. Some of us, like myself, also feel peoples pain. Someones stubbed toe, sinus problems, pulled muscles, etc. And sometimes, like with myself, it goes even further beyond that to feeling when something is happening or being done to a person. Like when you feel someone getting an IV put in in a hospital, or you feel it when someone takes medication like nasal spray. Feeling it inside the nose, and then the sensation down the throat because some has run down their throat, and then feeling the clearing of their head. And then there is also the occasional instances of waking up with someone else’s bruise which has happened to me a couple of times.

How empathy in all of us empaths can manifest if so varied that sometimes it is hard to get answers. Questions that you find yourself pondering run a wide range. I would like to write quite a few posts to answer those questions based on not only personal experience but also what I have learned from research. Here are some of the questions I plan to address in future posts:

  • How and why do you end up connecting to someone and picking up their emotions and pain?
  • How to properly and effectively disconnect?
  • How to shield/protect so you can control when you are picking up emotions and pain and when you ar not?
  • How to use empathy in energy healing such as Reiki?
  • How to use empathy to simply help family and friends during tough times?
  • How to develop empathy into something more?
  • What is Clairsentience and how do I develop and use it?
  • And a channelled message regarding empathy.

I will try and post these fairly quickly. Also, I would love for you to post your experiences because it really does help other empath’s.

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Who’s Acid Reflux Is This? – Empathy and Clairsentience

Funny title, yes! But that is the reality of the empath who is also clairsentient.

There you sit watching TV one night. You are comfortable, content and enjoying your favorite reality show. Then suddenly you are not feeling well. You think to yourself “Man, what did I eat that gave me this awful feeling of indigestion?” But you can’t think of anything you’ve eaten that has ever made you feel this way before.

This is the point where you should stop and ask yourself the question that is most important for an empath. How was I feeling a few minutes before? How was I feeling the majority of the day? If the answer is that you had been feel just fine and happy then as an empath you should have confidence that what you are feeling is not yours. knowing and acknowledging that it is not your is half the battle. But this part is the most difficult for many.watch movie John Wick: Chapter 2 now

Constantly paying attention to yourself and getting to really know yourself and how you feel and think, and paying attention to all of that, is key. If you don’t know yourself including how you normally feeling then how can you easily know when feelings and pains are not yours.

I do believe that this is the beginning step for controlling empathy.

How do you feel right now? Have you even stopped throughout the day to pay attention to how you feel? Do you have any pains? How would you describe your mood? How is your mood normally? Do you normally fly off the handle and hurl things through the air? Do you normally get so angry your head feels like it is going to explode? If angry, can you explain why YOU are angry? Does the emotions you are feeling make sense to you?

As an empath you need to not react to emotions that are not yours however to be able to do that you need to know yourself and know what is not yours.

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