The Real Traits of an Empath – The List
I tried to base this list on what I experienced before becoming a completely awakened empath. Some examples of experiences are from when I was young and some as recent as 10 years ago. Now that I am a skilled empath I look back and all of my past makes sense now. I hope you find this list helpful.
Weak Emotional Stability – picking up peoples emotions and not knowing it I often experienced mood swings. Some not so bad and others quite extreme. I could be fine one minute and totally pissed the next. I could be happy one moment and then sobbing uncontrollably the next.
Feelings Easily Hurt – Often I was called “too sensitive.” I would take criticism really hard. I can’t even say how many times I would be at work and have to go into the bathroom so no one would see me cry. My feelings were easily hurt deeply.
Always Friends With or Trying to Help The Underdog – I didn’t understand it but I was feeling the emotions of others to the point where I felt drawn to befriend them, try to help them, or just offer kind words even if it was a stranger I didn’t know. I once offer a co-worker who was crying (and had been crying for at least 30 minutes) the money she needed ($300) for her over drawn bank account if she would just stop crying. Yes, I was quite serious and would have wrote her a check on the spot if it would have gotten her to stop crying. My saying that to her did make her stop crying because she though it funny how desperate I was to get her to stop crying. She laughing for a couple of minutes and then to my horror when right back to crying again. lol. The best way I can describe it is that it is a feeling of “I don’t want to just console you, I want to cry with you.” You remember the saying “I am not laughing at you, I am laughing with you.” That says it all!
Not Loud Noise…loud Negativity – There is a big difference! Loud noise is fireworks on the 4th of July. Loud Negativity is being present or near and feeling the negative emotions of an argument between two people. Loud music to me is just loud music…and I get my groove on and enjoy it! lol. A difference of opinion between people who get a little loud when it comes to making their point and have a lot of emotion behind it because they greatly disagree with the other(s) view point is negative noise that I feel I want to get away from. For example, I love watching The View. But, pre-election when they would get into heated debates I would have to turn the channel…my stomach gets all knotted up and I start to feel like I could hyper-ventilate at any moment.
Knowing Whether You Are Liked– I always knew what someone felt for me. They wouldn’t have to say anything to me or about me for me to know. I could not only sense it but also sense the reasons behind it. Some times with a simple “hello” I knew it all. With just one word said to me Icould pick up the feelings behind it, so I was really good at sensing fake emotions or when someone was lying to me. There were many times before I knew I was an empath that someone could say one innocent word and I would have to fight off the tears because of the truth I felt behind it. Being an empath is very much about knowing the truth. It can’t be hidden from you no matter how hard someone tries because you can feel it.
Movies and the News Affect – You may or may not have trouble watching sad or violent movies and news stories. I didn’t always…it was something that started subtly and grew until it was so noticeable to me that something was up and I could no longer ignore it.
Relationship Problems– In relationships my emotional needs never felt satisfied. I really sorry I can’t elaborate on this. I honestly can’t explain it. But to give one example…I ended a relationship quite suddenly because of sudden feelings I picked up. I didn’t know where they came from but they felt like mine and boy did I act on it! I broke up with him on the spot and drove away with tires screeching, and as I drove away I racked my brain trying to figure out what had just happened and why I just ended my relationship. Empathy can sabotage a relationship when you are unaware that you are an empath and therefore act on emotions that are not your own. The hardest thing for an empath to get good at is knowing what is theirs and what is not. Once that is learned and you get a good handle on it life gets so much sweeter!
Exhaustion– When unaware that you are an empath and you are just walking around like a sponge sucking up all those emotions and making all those connections that go unbroken for days and days and just build up…it is very draining. Eventually you feel as though you have run out of energy in a big way. You may go days feeling tired. Maybe the drain of energy is happening during one of those long phone calls with a friends where they unburden themselves on you, about their day, their relationship, their co-workers, their parents, their kids, etc. They talk and you listen (maybe you are a great listener). This is draining to an empath and also considered a energy vampirism with the talkative friend being the energy vampire.
You Dont’ Think, You feel– I one day realized that I very rarely stated a sentence by saying “I think…” No, it was always “I feel…” I related to everything by feeling but didn’t really realize it. I often foudn it hard to explain myself to people. Of course, because often it was about feelings for me and I found it hard to put what I felt (what I knew from feeling) into words. I was once told by my father that I was very smart and good with computer but that when it came to explaining things I was very confusing. I know what I know…or rather I should say, I know what I feel but I have a hard time putting it into words that make sense. You can translate Spanish, French, etc but what about translating empathy and what you pick up as feelings?
I know this list is not very long, but I feel it is (and hope I don’t offend anyone by saying) more true to what a pre-awakened empath may experience/notice. Oh, see I did it again…notice I said “but I feel it is…” instead of “but I thinkit is…” lol.