Should You Keep That Friend in Your Life?
It is not uncommon for givers to attract takers. It is also not uncommon for those who are overly positive to attract those who are overly negative. There is a gravitation towards what you are lacking on an unconscious level and sometimes it is that natural born healer within yourself that has you constantly attracting those who have deficits. Many have to remember that you have to think outside yourselves sometimes. It is not just about the one person. It is not just about you. The relationship might be great for you but is it what best serves the person across from you? Maybe not, but that is not the end of things. Possibly the person that is at a lower level or lesser vibration can bring themselves up. Sometimes this does happen and sometimes it does not because the person is so stubborn and set in their ways that nothing and no one is going to budge them from the place they are at. Not your problem and you can’t worry about that. We don’t go along our paths in pairs, the journey is solitary. On your way to your destination if you are always busy trying to take a friend with you then you may just never get there because they don’t want to go and won’t let you go either.
It is very rare that a friend changes their behavior to adjust to the friend they are dealing with. An overly negative person does not clean up their act when they are around an overly positive person. There is sometimes a time in a persons life when they realize that they haven’t been being a very good person and makes the decision to work on themselves and improve. Then there are those who sincerely think they are constantly working to improve but all they are really doing is running in place like on a treadmill being so unaware that they are actually not moving forward.
Everything is where it is in life for a reason. It is not up to you to question why but to accept in the now how things are now. Things are always in a state of change, true, but I did not say they were always in a state of changing and heading to a better place.
Many people have baggage. Things that they have experienced in life that has made them into the people they are today. The experiences they learned from and gained triggers from that effect their behavior. It is not up to you to heal a person. It is their lesson and maybe they will learn it in this lifetime and maybe they won’t. You have to accept the way things work. Accept the way the Universe works and its laws. It you are in an unbalanced relationships then you are out of balance because of it. You will not be spiritually moving forward until you rid your life of the things that cause unbalance.
For example, let’s say you have a friend that is controlling and harsh. Maybe you often hold back and don’t speak your mind, be your true self, because you are avoiding the bad negative reaction from your friend. This causes your throat chakra to block eventually. You could start suffering from throat problems, common colds on a regular basis, congestion and need to clear your throat all the time, ringing in the ears, etc. Those are just some of the results of a blocked throat chakra. Yes, I am saying being in a relationship with someone who is not in balance with you could literally make you sick. Eventually you will need to make the choice to stay with them being just a resemblance of your true self or to free yourself and move on, putting yourself first with you which is what you should always do. The choice may seem hard but time will prove to you that you made the right decision.