Life Issues

Dealing with Difficult People and Situations

If you have ever had to deal with a difficult person you know it is not something you ever look forward to. Actually you find yourself dreading being face to face with them because in your mind you can already see a bad outcome to the situation. You probably even see them getting the best of you and causing you to start having negative feelings and thoughts which is something you don’t want to do.

The Law of Attraction teaches us that our negative emotions and thoughts flow outward on energy within the universe and then at some time in the future flows back to us. Negative out gives us negative back in. As you are practicing the Laws of Attraction and feeling that you are getting really good at manifesting good things for yourself it seems that negative things will sometimes try to slip into the mix. A negative co-worker, family member, or cashier at the grocery store. Some think of these negativities that try to sneak in as resistance. Think of the Law of Attraction like a Mario Bros. game. You have levels that you are trying to conquer in order to reach the next level. The final level may be the goal you are working towards. That ultimate manifestation may be wealth or your dream husband. Before completing every level a monster forms out of the blue that you must get around to reach the end of the path to move up to the next level. Notice that I didn’t say you had to fight the monster. No, you must peacefully get around the monster leaving the monster in tact to go about his business. You are of course not going to pop your co-worker in the eye and then jump up and down thinking you are moving to the next level unless your aim is unemployment. No, you have to move around your co-workers so that you can continue successfully manifesting your desires without any hindrance.

When it comes to dealing with a difficult person do not fall into the trap of thinking negatively about them. Think of things to appreciate them for. If it is a family member you can appreciate them because they love you, they always invite you to family functions, they have taught you many important things in the past, and they treat your children well are some examples. If it is a co-worker you can appreciate them because they are always on time for work, they don’t talk a lot at work and cause a disturbance, they are good at their job, and you don’t have to share an office with them.

The next step is visualizing them dealing with you in the manner you would like. The family member greets you warmly and is very interested in you and your life. She or he always has positive things to say to you. She or he makes you feel very good and loved. The co-worker greets you in the morning in passing but says no more than that. She or he only communicates with you if they have something positive to say. She or he positively compliments you and asks like your best friend when dealing with you.movie A Family Man 2017

Now, start smiling and thinking of something that makes you feel a strong emotion such as love or gratitude. I usually think of the birth of my son. Feel yourself feeling more and more ecstatically happy. As you are doing this and visualizing, really feeling the situation above, state you intents and wants. Continue until you really feel and believe what you are saying. Remember that even after you have finished this throughout the day you do need to keep some focus on the intentions.

With more and more practice you will find this easier and quicker to do with better results each time.

Dealing with a difficult situation isn’t that much different from dealing with a difficult person. The process is mainly the same except that you are not dealing with a person. You may be dealing with getting in and out of an always crowded grocery store quickly and easily. Or you may be dealing with the issue of heavy traffic. This method works very well on traffic situations if you make sure to practice the Law of Attraction every day and make it a part of your life from now on. I use a statement for myself that is “I always get to work (or whether you are traveling to) quickly, easily and safely.” When I first started using that statement while driving I would say it pretty much the whole time I was driving, but now I can just think it periodically and it works just as well.

Practice and make sure you come back and leave a comment letting me and everyone else know about your experiences.

Energy Drainers, Family and Friends

Do you have any of these in your life? Unconscious energy drainers? They could be any one in disguise. Parents, siblings, in-laws, neighbors, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, best friend, someone you think is a friend, etc.

If you are an empath you know where I am going with this. People innocently may be thinking about you, of course thinking that there is no harm in thinking of someone. But maybe your best friend is mad at you because you cancelled on her for a day of shopping. As she is thinking of you and sending out negative energy filled with anger. Guess where that energy is going? That’s right, it is going to the person she is focused on – YOU!film xXx: Return of Xander Cage 2017 online

This energy you are receiving in this way is powerful because anger and frustration are very powerful emotions energy wise. As an empath if you do nothing to ward of this negative energy and do not protect yourself from it then it can quickly make you so sick that within hours you are laying down in pain feeling almost unable to move. Possibly your head may feel like someone is stabbing it sharply or squeezing it to the point of a dizzying effect. Then you may also feel nauseous from the overwhelming amount of negative energy. Not to mention that if the person thinking of you also has other issues like a headache, toothache, etc. you are going to possible feel those pains as well.

Unfortunately many times people don’t let go of the past that easily. They don’t just easily say “Okay, I am over that now.” and then move on quickly. No, many stay angry all day and all night and then again they get angry all over again every time they think about you or see you. For an empath this seems like never ending torture that may end one day but starts right back over again the next.

For those who are not empath’s you may think they are getting off easy, but they are not. To send negative energy to someone it has to come through you to be sent to them even if you are not consciously doing it. So the person unconsciously sending out the negative energy is going to in the end be even more affected by it than the empath. Once the empath blocks the negative energy they are safe and secure within that protection, however the person sending out the negative energy is effected by it and then has to deal with the law of cause and effect. That which you send out into the universe is coming back at them. Notice that many people whi send out a lot of negative energy (although on the surface they seem just fine) suffer from illnesses, ulcers, heart problems, and unexplainable medical problems.

As an empath if you are finding yourself suddenly on the receiving end of negative energy the best thing to do is to use the fire protection method, however remember that it is really more useful for a short term need. What I prefer to do is to close my chakra’s and use the mummy protection in blue. If I am under psychic attack from someone purposely trying to hurt or drain me of energy then I usually go into my pyramid where no one can harm me or call on spiritual help from the other side.

If you are not an empath and you are reading this learn about the power of thought, get a good self help book on controlling your emotions, and the next time someone does something you do not like…send love and let it go for your own good health and theirs.

Educate people about emapth’s…send this to a friend.

Frustrations and Pressures of Life are Impermanent

Just because I have read a lot and seemed to learn everything there is to know does not mean the lessons are any easier. If there is a lesson I need to learn although I may have the knowledge and understanding needed to traverse a tough road does not mean it will be simple. I know all about impermanence. I speak to many about it all the time. Often when people tell me the thing they have going on in their life I remind them that these things are things that are very impermanent. What you may be dealing with today will be over tomorrow and if not tomorrow then the day after that. Things we deal with don’t last long or at least the experience doesn’t. The emotional skid marks may last longer, that is if we let them.

I have been feeling bombarded with things coming at me from every where. Then I realized “Hmmm, there is a theme here!” Yes, a theme of people coming to me to help them solve their problems and the things they want me to help them with are things I also have going on for my own self. These things they need help with are also things that I do or have to do on a daily basis for myself but I am not reaching out for help because I just deal with them and see them as no big deal. I see them as just another little task I have to do. The last, I don’t know how many days, the walls of people have been closing in on me and last night and today I haven’t dealt with it as well as usual. While trying to see the truth in it all I started to cry and I sniffled and I felt like I had just inhaled pool water. I could smell it and almost taste it. I started to laugh a little at the thought that even when I started to lose it a little my abilities still worked and I was able to pick up the chlorinated pool water. I understood right away. Water represents the emotions and the chlorine is used to purify the water. Also may be telling me that my emotions as of late are tied to a purification or clearing I am going through and the reason I am feeling more sensitive than normal.

So, what do I do with all of this? I hang on for the ride and not pay much attention to the things that are coming at me because they are impermanent and they will pass. In the meantime while I am waiting I will just deal with the things I have to deal with and be thankful and it is not permanent and soon this too will be in the past…just a faint memory.

Can you see things as being not a big deal? Can you just let things pass? Can you survive because you know that tomorrow will be different?

Early Buddhism dealt with the problem of impermanence in a very rationale manner. This concept is known as anicca in Buddhism, according to which, impermanence is an undeniable and inescapable fact of human existence from which nothing that belongs to this earth is ever free.

Hinduism also believes in the impermanent nature of life. But it deals with this problem differently. According to Hinduism, impermanence can be overcome by locating and uniting with the center of permanence that exists within oneself. This center is the Soul or the self that is immortal, permanent and ever stable.
Frustrations and Pressures of Life

Psychic Attacks Done Inadvertently

Most people understand what a psychic attack is but many do not know it is something they themselves do to others. How could someone not know? Because they are just going about their normal everyday lives and behaving as they always behaved. Not thinking that half the things they do and think could be effecting another person and quite frankly most get caught up in an experience that left them feeling so hurt and mad that they are soley focusing on their own pain and suffering.watch full film Cars 3 2017 online

I always tell my son that when another child does something bad to him like calling him names not to feel that he must respond because the reality is they are only hurting themselves. The bad that someone does is their karma that they must pay for but if you react, such as reacting in kind, and start throwing it back at them them you are also now in the wrong and it becomes your karma as well.

Every action has an option and equal reaction. We learned that in science remember? Well guess what?! It is so true even when it comes to a psychic attack.

Psychic Spiritual AttackI have heard of someone getting mad at another person for something they did and then finding out later that the person they got mad at got very ill. At realizing, like a light bulb going off suddenly, that they may have caused them to get ill due to the negative angry energy they sent them they felt great guilt that they could not seem to get out from under that literally tortured them. Don’t bother torturing yourself because you think you may have been inflicting negative energy on other for years not knowing. For one, that guilt will cause illness and disease for you and secondly you received karma for behavior. That’s like being sent to prison for a crime, serving your time and then when you get out you build a prison in your home and make yourself pay for the crime again. You have already paid the price whether you know it or not, now move on, learn from it and do better.

Your probably wondering about being on the receiving end of a psychic attack. That is a concern I have noticed many have. For some their lives take a turn for the worse and they wonder if someone has purposely attacked them and caused their life to circle the drain. You can be assured that you will receive nothing you don’t have coming to you. If karmically speaking you are owe it, them maybe. Then you should not fight it and let the karma play out with patience so the karma will drop. Know and believe that it will eventually drop and you can move on with your life and things will get better. Don’t let the karma drop or fall into the pit of the worry emotion and you could just be dragging things out for yourself.

We are speaking of psychic attacks (negative energy) received that is not purposely being done. Purposeful psychic and spiritual attacks are another story that require a different understand and a different solution, so don’t mix up the two.

Go forward working on your reactions. Both those outwardly as the words you say out loud to someone and inwardly as the negative thoughts about another. Work on remembering that something someone else does can only hurt them. There is a reason it emotionally hurt you and often that answer lies in your past experiences and not in the person that said something to trigger that emotion and hurt within you.

Tip: When you find yourPsychic self feeling very hurt and angry pick a prayer, decree or mantra you will say repeatedly in your head. I use to use the Hail Mary prayer. Not because I am Catholic but because I really love that prayer and it resonates with me. So when you feel those emotions building in the pit of your stomach and that burning feeling from it start saying the prayer, decree or mantra repeatedly until you feel the fire of the emotions put out within yourself.

I hope this helps you. Feel free to schedule a coaching session with me if you are having a hard time dealing with something related to this. We can work through it so you can get back to enjoying your life and having fun! http://sherryspeaks.com/services/intuitive-coaching/

Should You Keep That Friend in Your Life?

I have been asked so many times during readings and coaching sessions about peoples existing friendships. By most it does not go un-noticed when there is a lack of balance in their relationships. Sometimes the question is whether or not to keep that friend in your life. It’s a good question to have because that means you are staying vigil when is comes to continually checking to see what in your life needs to go that no longer serves you or is not in balance with where you are, who you are or where you are going.

It is not uncommon for givers to attract takers. It is also not uncommon for those who are overly positive to attract those who are overly negative. There is a gravitation towards what you are lacking on an unconscious level and sometimes it is that natural born healer within yourself that has you constantly attracting those who have deficits. Many have to remember that you have to think outside yourselves sometimes. It is not just about the one person. It is not just about you. The relationship might be great for you but is it what best serves the person across from you? Maybe not, but that is not the end of things. Possibly the person that is at a lower level or lesser vibration can bring themselves up. Sometimes this does happen and sometimes it does not because the person is so stubborn and set in their ways that nothing and no one is going to budge them from the place they are at. Not your problem and you can’t worry about that. We don’t go along our paths in pairs, the journey is solitary. On your way to your destination if you are always busy trying to take a friend with you then you may just never get there because they don’t want to go and won’t let you go either.

It is very rare that a friend changes their behavior to adjust to the friend they are dealing with. An overly negative person does not clean up their act when they are around an overly positive person. There is sometimes a time in a persons life when they realize that they haven’t been being a very good person and makes the decision to work on themselves and improve. Then there are those who sincerely think they are constantly working to improve but all they are really doing is running in place like on a treadmill being so unaware that they are actually not moving forward.watch full Fist Fight 2017 filmmovie trailer

Everything is where it is in life for a reason. It is not up to you to question why but to accept in the now how things are now. Things are always in a state of change, true, but I did not say they were always in a state of changing and heading to a better place.

Many people have baggage. Things that they have experienced in life that has made them into the people they are today. The experiences they learned from and gained triggers from that effect their behavior. It is not up to you to heal a person. It is their lesson and maybe they will learn it in this lifetime and maybe they won’t. You have to accept the way things work. Accept the way the Universe works and its laws. It you are in an unbalanced relationships then you are out of balance because of it. You will not be spiritually moving forward until you rid your life of the things that cause unbalance.

For example, let’s say you have a friend that is controlling and harsh. Maybe you often hold back and don’t speak your mind, be your true self, because you are avoiding the bad negative reaction from your friend. This causes your throat chakra to block eventually. You could start suffering from throat problems, common colds on a regular basis, congestion and need to clear your throat all the time, ringing in the ears, etc. Those are just some of the results of a blocked throat chakra. Yes, I am saying being in a relationship with someone who is not in balance with you could literally make you sick. Eventually you will need to make the choice to stay with them being just a resemblance of your true self or to free yourself and move on, putting yourself first with you which is what you should always do. The choice may seem hard but time will prove to you that you made the right decision.

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