Self Help

Frustrations and Pressures of Life are Impermanent

Just because I have read a lot and seemed to learn everything there is to know does not mean the lessons are any easier. If there is a lesson I need to learn although I may have the knowledge and understanding needed to traverse a tough road does not mean it will be simple. I know all about impermanence. I speak to many about it all the time. Often when people tell me the thing they have going on in their life I remind them that these things are things that are very impermanent. What you may be dealing with today will be over tomorrow and if not tomorrow then the day after that. Things we deal with don’t last long or at least the experience doesn’t. The emotional skid marks may last longer, that is if we let them.

I have been feeling bombarded with things coming at me from every where. Then I realized “Hmmm, there is a theme here!” Yes, a theme of people coming to me to help them solve their problems and the things they want me to help them with are things I also have going on for my own self. These things they need help with are also things that I do or have to do on a daily basis for myself but I am not reaching out for help because I just deal with them and see them as no big deal. I see them as just another little task I have to do. The last, I don’t know how many days, the walls of people have been closing in on me and last night and today I haven’t dealt with it as well as usual. While trying to see the truth in it all I started to cry and I sniffled and I felt like I had just inhaled pool water. I could smell it and almost taste it. I started to laugh a little at the thought that even when I started to lose it a little my abilities still worked and I was able to pick up the chlorinated pool water. I understood right away. Water represents the emotions and the chlorine is used to purify the water. Also may be telling me that my emotions as of late are tied to a purification or clearing I am going through and the reason I am feeling more sensitive than normal.

So, what do I do with all of this? I hang on for the ride and not pay much attention to the things that are coming at me because they are impermanent and they will pass. In the meantime while I am waiting I will just deal with the things I have to deal with and be thankful and it is not permanent and soon this too will be in the past…just a faint memory.

Can you see things as being not a big deal? Can you just let things pass? Can you survive because you know that tomorrow will be different?

Early Buddhism dealt with the problem of impermanence in a very rationale manner. This concept is known as anicca in Buddhism, according to which, impermanence is an undeniable and inescapable fact of human existence from which nothing that belongs to this earth is ever free.

Hinduism also believes in the impermanent nature of life. But it deals with this problem differently. According to Hinduism, impermanence can be overcome by locating and uniting with the center of permanence that exists within oneself. This center is the Soul or the self that is immortal, permanent and ever stable.
Frustrations and Pressures of Life

Should You Keep That Friend in Your Life?

I have been asked so many times during readings and coaching sessions about peoples existing friendships. By most it does not go un-noticed when there is a lack of balance in their relationships. Sometimes the question is whether or not to keep that friend in your life. It’s a good question to have because that means you are staying vigil when is comes to continually checking to see what in your life needs to go that no longer serves you or is not in balance with where you are, who you are or where you are going.

It is not uncommon for givers to attract takers. It is also not uncommon for those who are overly positive to attract those who are overly negative. There is a gravitation towards what you are lacking on an unconscious level and sometimes it is that natural born healer within yourself that has you constantly attracting those who have deficits. Many have to remember that you have to think outside yourselves sometimes. It is not just about the one person. It is not just about you. The relationship might be great for you but is it what best serves the person across from you? Maybe not, but that is not the end of things. Possibly the person that is at a lower level or lesser vibration can bring themselves up. Sometimes this does happen and sometimes it does not because the person is so stubborn and set in their ways that nothing and no one is going to budge them from the place they are at. Not your problem and you can’t worry about that. We don’t go along our paths in pairs, the journey is solitary. On your way to your destination if you are always busy trying to take a friend with you then you may just never get there because they don’t want to go and won’t let you go either.

It is very rare that a friend changes their behavior to adjust to the friend they are dealing with. An overly negative person does not clean up their act when they are around an overly positive person. There is sometimes a time in a persons life when they realize that they haven’t been being a very good person and makes the decision to work on themselves and improve. Then there are those who sincerely think they are constantly working to improve but all they are really doing is running in place like on a treadmill being so unaware that they are actually not moving forward.watch full Fist Fight 2017 filmmovie trailer

Everything is where it is in life for a reason. It is not up to you to question why but to accept in the now how things are now. Things are always in a state of change, true, but I did not say they were always in a state of changing and heading to a better place.

Many people have baggage. Things that they have experienced in life that has made them into the people they are today. The experiences they learned from and gained triggers from that effect their behavior. It is not up to you to heal a person. It is their lesson and maybe they will learn it in this lifetime and maybe they won’t. You have to accept the way things work. Accept the way the Universe works and its laws. It you are in an unbalanced relationships then you are out of balance because of it. You will not be spiritually moving forward until you rid your life of the things that cause unbalance.

For example, let’s say you have a friend that is controlling and harsh. Maybe you often hold back and don’t speak your mind, be your true self, because you are avoiding the bad negative reaction from your friend. This causes your throat chakra to block eventually. You could start suffering from throat problems, common colds on a regular basis, congestion and need to clear your throat all the time, ringing in the ears, etc. Those are just some of the results of a blocked throat chakra. Yes, I am saying being in a relationship with someone who is not in balance with you could literally make you sick. Eventually you will need to make the choice to stay with them being just a resemblance of your true self or to free yourself and move on, putting yourself first with you which is what you should always do. The choice may seem hard but time will prove to you that you made the right decision.

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